Learn How To Keep Your Love Life Interesting
According to biology, humans are not monogamous creatures. It is in our nature to be attracted to other people and that complicates matters in terms of long-term relationships. So where does this leave the old fashioned romance that is based on two people loving each other till the end of time?
The biggest problem with committed gay relationships is that we create habits and make assumptions. It’s a habit to kiss your partner before leaving for work and you naturally assume he will be there when you get home. It’s these types of comforts that are exciting at first, but gradually turn into routine gestures. Before you know it you find yourself bored.
Not all couples have this problem, although it’s safe to assume most couples can agree to some extent. This is when an intervention is needed. Something has to happen that will break the routine and stir things up again.
You can start small by calling your partner when they least expect it, just to tell them you love them. You can even have a small present delivered at work or have a romantic dinner in the middle of the week. Maybe have a date night where you two guys can do something different together.
The trick isn’t in the size of the change, but the change itself. Another good way to create some fresh feelings of early romance is to spend a little time apart. This could be over a weekend or just one night during the week. A little distance isn’t going to hurt your relationship. Instead, it will remind you of why you should appreciate your lover.
One of the best methods to bring that spark back into your partner’s eyes is to make a big deal when you see them, whether it’s in public or you’re home alone. Show him how excited you are that you get to spend more time with him and break the assumption that he will always be there. As cruel as it may sound, every second is a given. Nobody knows what will happen within the next five minutes, so appreciate him.
If you want to continue to have a loving long-term relationship, then keep your love life interesting. Don’t let it become a world of routine and assumptions. Allow your spontaneous side to come out and charm your guy like the first day you met, because that’s how you maintain the fire.